Song Report: What Music Relaxes You?

Today I’m feeling twitchy and out of sorts. You know what I mean. I’ve got that anxiety knot in my chest cuz there’s too much going on...and I’m not sure if I used the right tone in that last email response...and I have five half-hour meetings back-to-back this afternoon and they all seem pointless...and I forgot to get gas on the way into work and now I’m going to have to squeeze that in along with the grocery store on my way know. The usual middle-of-a-busy-day stress.

I made a Spotify playlist to help me calm down when I feel like this. Whenever I hear a song that makes my heart open up and take a deep breath, I add it to the list. I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true! Sometimes I hear a song that makes my insides feel different.

So it’s a rather peculiar assembly at this point. I could write about each song and how it makes me feel, but they would all go something like this, “I love this song. It speaks to me. It makes me feel calm.” Cuz, I mean...that’s why they’re all on the list.

  1. Float On - Modest Mouse
  2. All These Things That I’ve Done - The Killers
  3. Animal - Miike Snow
  4. Maps - Yeah Yeah Yeahs
  5. Unbelievers - Vampire Weekend
  6. Space Oddity - David Bowie
  7. Shot at the Night - The Killers
  8. Roar - Katy Perry
  9. Lullabye - Ben Folds Five
  10. Graceland - Paul Simon
  11. Under Pressure (live) - Queen
  12. Diane Young - Vampire Weekend
  13. Ho Hey - The Lumineers
  14. Anna Sun - Walk the Moon
  15. Somebody to Love - Queen
  16. Sweet Thing - Van Morrison
If I only have a few minutes, I just listen to number one on the list, "Float On":

(The link:

This is the song I listened to on repeat when my grandpa died. This is the video I put on when I get into it with someone at work. These are the lyrics I read when I need to feel a sense of calm:

Bad news come don't you worry even when it lands
Good news will work its way to all them plans
We both got fired on exactly the same day
Well we'll float on good news is on the way
And we'll all float on OK
And we'll all float on OK
And we'll all float on OK
And we'll all float on 
Alright already we'll all float on
Now don't you worry we'll all float on

It’s funny what triggers that feeling of calm. I’m trying to figure it out because I find as I get older, my anxiety levels are just getting higher and higher. And as I work toward trying to have a baby, they skyrocket - which is the exact opposite of what you are supposed to do! You are supposed to relaaaaaax. Stress is the number one thing that keeps women from getting pregnant.

Deep breaths help. Walks or hikes are wonderful. Quotes and positive affirmations have been surprisingly helpful (obviously...that's why I'm doing this here blog). And music is huge. Anything that yanks me out of my current drama and helps me detach from myself helps.

Because at the end of the day, whatever I’m worried about is not that important. My family, my husband, my friends, my health - these are the important things! And there are so many people less fortunate than me!

Uh oh...this post is careening dangerously close to one of those be-grateful-for-what-you-have-there-are-starving-people-in-China sort of things. I don’t mean for it to. I just think the secret to being calm is detaching yourself from the moment and asking - does this really matter?

And you’ve just got to find what can trigger that! What can get you to step away. For me, it’s a song from this list, like Queen singing Somebody To Love. I mean, for everyone it should be Queen singing Somebody To Love because it is a perfect song sung by a perfect band. But if yours is a Nine Inch Nails song, more power to ya.

Anything to get rid of that twitchy feeling and that anxiety knot!