This Personality Test is Blowing my MIND.

OK, so I'm not really into "quizzes." I mean, sure, when I was a teenager I loved Seventeen magazine and could fill in multiple choice questions about my love compatibility (or style or luck or type or chakra or whatever) for hours on end. But as an adult, I haven't gone crazy over the Buzzfeed quizzes that are all the rage right now.

BUT. But but BUT.

I AM crazy about this personality test my friend Shayna sent me. It's called 16 Personalities, and it's free! The quiz takes less than 12 minutes to complete...and the results are scary accurate. And you get pages and pages of feedback. All the folks on my team at work took it, and now we're obsessed with it. It's a variation on the Myers-Briggs test that you may have taken at work or in various "corporate retreat" scenarios.

Go take the test, and then come back. Then you can read about me and compare and contrast. Or if you want more info, here's a list of the 16 personality types. But I recommend going in blind. The key, of course, is to be honest. It's only accurate if you are honest!

It turns out I'm ENFJ. I'm a diplomat! I'm a "charismatic and inspiring leader, able to mesmerize their listeners." (Do you feel mesmerized?)

That's me, leading with my little green flag! I look like a suffragette. I love it.

Seriously though...this analysis is amazing. It's like reading a dossier my mom, boss, husband, and best friend collaborated on. This test knows me, you guys. It made me feel great! I felt understood, I felt like my motivations were accurately identified, I felt like my positive attributes were glorified...all great things! Of course, I understood and agreed with the weaknesses too. Those were good to hear and be reminded of!

Some of the highlights/stuff that really struck a chord...

Here's my opening paragraph. This made me feel fantastic:
ENFJs are natural-born leaders, full of passion and charisma. Forming around two percent of the population, they are oftentimes our politicians, our coaches and our teachers, reaching out and inspiring others to achieve and to do good in the world. With a natural confidence that begets influence, ENFJs take a great deal of pride and joy in guiding others to work together to improve themselves and their community.
Geez oh Petes! Thank you, 16 Personalities Test! I will do my best to live up to this definition of myself.

My results said:
ENFJs will still rely on conversations about their mutual feelings, checking the pulse of the relationship by asking how things are, and if there's anything else they can do. While this can help to keep conflict, which ENFJs abhor, to a minimum, they also risk being overbearing or needy - ENFJs should keep in mind that sometimes the only thing that's wrong is being asked what's wrong too often.
I can't wait for my husband to read this because he is going to stand up and applaud. One of the biggest long standing arguments we have is how often I ask him if is he ok...or if he is ok with the decision I made...or if he is ok with the thing he just said he was ok with just cuz I want to doublecheck...

And I'm sure my friends are also reading this and nodding their heads vigorously. I do it to them. And I do it to my family. It drives everyone nuts. I just want everyone to be ok, ok?!?

Also, the test is so right cuz I hate conflict so much. Perfect use of "abhor."

A snippet on me as a parent:
ENFJ parents take pride in nurturing and inspiring strong values, and they take care to ensure that the basis for these values comes from understanding, not blind obedience. Whatever their children need in order to learn and grow, ENFJ parents give the time and energy necessary to provide it. While in their weaker moments they may succumb to more manipulative behavior, ENFJs mostly rely on their charm and idealism to make sure their children take these lessons to heart.
Well, this bit really struck home, and not just because I'm about to BE a parent. It's also because the leading quote is one I adore and reference often. How did you get into my brain, internet test? You know everything about me!

Here's what they say:
ENFJs need to make sure they get to focus on people, not systems and spreadsheets, and they are unlikely to have the stomach for making the sort of decisions required in corporate governance positions - they will feel haunted, knowing that their decision cost someone their job, or that their product cost someone their life.
Omigod, so true. I love the people parts of my job and dread the spreadsheet parts. Also, I internalize everything and fret when I think my decision has impacted someone's life negatively. This is the thing I worry about when I think about how I ultimately want to produce...can I stomach it when I have to let people go? Can I deal with the difficult decisions? It hurts me to think about hurting people, and sometimes leaders have to hurt people. It's just the way it is. (But not like actually physically hurt people. We should never do that. If I was making a product that cost someone their life, I would be even more of a basket case than I currently am.)

If you take the test, let me know what personality type you get! And let me know how accurate it is!

It's so so worth the 12 minutes.